“it is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”

william shakespeare

some things are often deemed to be bad. some things are often deemed to be good.

here are three things that may sound bad but can actually be good for you. three things that i have learned to make better use of or strengthen a bit since that would help me out. think about them. then add and subtract as you see useful for your life and situation right now while using your own common sense.

“事情本無好壞之分，關(guān)鍵在于你怎么想”——莎士比亞

有些事總是被認(rèn)為是好的，而有些事總是被認(rèn)為是壞的。有三件事聽起來很壞，卻能真正幫助你。好好地利用這三件事給我?guī)砹撕芏鄮椭Ｗ屑?xì)想想，看看它們對(duì)你現(xiàn)在的處境是否有幫助。

1. selfishness.

selfishness is rarely seen as something positive. the word may fill your head with images of greedy and soulless montgomery burns-like people.

however, personal development is in a way pretty selfish. you are trying to make yourself and your life better. but the thing is that by focusing on helping yourself first you can become stronger and help others in a better way too.

if you just focus on other people and not on yourself then you risk burning out. or people may take advantage of you as you set no limits or boundaries. you become the “nice guy/girl” who is always out there to help people but think little about yourself which in the long run can become pretty unhealthy.

and selfishness and helping others often go hand in hand anyway. i did for example improve my health and increased my energy levels last year. this also gave me the extra energy to work on an free ebook – that will, if everything goes as planned, be up on the blog very soon – besides writing the usual articles. so that is a win-win.

1.自私

自私很少被認(rèn)為是好的品質(zhì)。一提到這個(gè)詞，你腦海中可能就浮現(xiàn)出類似于montgomery burns那樣貪婪、無情的人。然而，個(gè)人提升在某種程度確實(shí)是一件很自私的事。你總是試圖讓你和你的生活更好些。事實(shí)上，通過優(yōu)先關(guān)注自己的事不僅會(huì)讓你變得更強(qiáng)大，而且還可以更好的幫助別人。

如果你只關(guān)注別人的事，那你就有被“耗盡”的可能。因?yàn)槟銓?duì)事情沒有約束和限制，被人很可能會(huì)利用你。你成了“好好人”，因?yàn)槟憧偸窃趲腿嗣@忙那，卻很少考慮你自己。長(zhǎng)期來說，這樣是很不好的。

話又說回來，自私和幫助別人也并不矛盾。舉例來說，去年一年，我努力使自己更健康也更有精力了。這使我在除卻寫平常的一些文章外還有多余的精力去完成一本免費(fèi)的電子書(若不錯(cuò)意外，明年就可與大家見面了)。所以這是雙贏。

2. lazyness.

being lazy isn’t all that bad. being lazy about stuff that is irrelevant or not that important will help you quite a bit to free up time and minimize unnecessary stress. getting the most stuff done isn’t the best option. getting the most important things done will improve your life and world the most.

so, as i wrote a few weeks ago, set limits for checking inboxes, twitter etc. use your laziness and come up with ideas on how to make things as simple as you can in your daily life. find the smartest path instead of thinking there is some reward for doing things in the most roundabout and complicated way.

this also makes it easier to really relax when you relax and work in focused way when you are working. be smart and balance life and take advantage of laziness instead of making things into an unnecessarily big struggle.

2.懶惰

懶惰也并非都是壞事。對(duì)一些無關(guān)緊要的事懶惰會(huì)為你節(jié)省很多時(shí)間，減少不必要的壓力。做完最多的事并非是最好的選擇，做完最重要的事才是最佳選擇。它能最大限度地提升你的生活和你生活的世界。

所以，在幾個(gè)星期前我就建議，要對(duì)你每天查看郵箱或twitter的次數(shù)做一個(gè)限制。在日常生活中，要利用你的懶惰來想一些點(diǎn)子，好讓有些事情盡可能簡(jiǎn)單。找一種最聰明的方法解決問題，而不是想著如果繞一些彎子或用一些很復(fù)雜的方法會(huì)獲得獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)。

這樣做可以讓你更容易在該放松的時(shí)候徹底放松，在該工作的時(shí)候?qū)Ｗ⒐ぷ鳌Ｒ畹丶嚷斆饔制胶猓M量利用懶惰的優(yōu)勢(shì)，不要做不必要的巨大努力。

3. ruthlessness.

adding a bit of ruthlessness has, in just the right amount, been very helpful for me. it allows me to cut out the unnecessary instead of wimping around and trying to everything to fit in somehow. if you have problems with putting a stop to something or making decisions then a little bit more ruthlessness may be what you need.

because at some point you have to make harder decisions and cut out stuff you may not want to. otherwise you won’t be able to find the time and energy you need. this may mean to skip some social engagements or cutting down on the tv-shows you follow from 10 hours a week to 2 hours a week. not always fun, but you have to be the boss of your life. you have to make the decisions and say no both to yourself and to others if necessary.

3.冷酷無情

多一點(diǎn)恰當(dāng)?shù)睦淇釋?duì)我非常有幫助。它讓我剔除了一些不必要的事，而不是猶猶豫豫，并試著以某種方式適應(yīng)它。如果你對(duì)停止做某些事或做某個(gè)決定感到困難，那么一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)的冷酷就是你所需要的。

到了某些時(shí)候，你必須做出一些對(duì)你來說更困難的決定或是放棄一些你不想放棄的事，因?yàn)榉駝t你將無法騰出你所需要的時(shí)間和精力。這可能意味著，你將砍掉一些社會(huì)交際時(shí)間或是將每周花10小時(shí)看你所熱衷的tv秀減至每周2小時(shí)。這也許并不好過，但你是自己生活的主人。你必須做決定，如果需要，你要向自己或是別人說“不”。

“it is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”

william shakespeare

some things are often deemed to be bad. some things are often deemed to be good.

here are three things that may sound bad but can actually be good for you. three things that i have learned to make better use of or strengthen a bit since that would help me out. think about them. then add and subtract as you see useful for your life and situation right now while using your own common sense.

“事情本無好壞之分，關(guān)鍵在于你怎么想”——莎士比亞

有些事總是被認(rèn)為是好的，而有些事總是被認(rèn)為是壞的。有三件事聽起來很壞，卻能真正幫助你。好好地利用這三件事給我?guī)砹撕芏鄮椭Ｗ屑?xì)想想，看看它們對(duì)你現(xiàn)在的處境是否有幫助。

1. selfishness.

selfishness is rarely seen as something positive. the word may fill your head with images of greedy and soulless montgomery burns-like people.

however, personal development is in a way pretty selfish. you are trying to make yourself and your life better. but the thing is that by focusing on helping yourself first you can become stronger and help others in a better way too.

if you just focus on other people and not on yourself then you risk burning out. or people may take advantage of you as you set no limits or boundaries. you become the “nice guy/girl” who is always out there to help people but think little about yourself which in the long run can become pretty unhealthy.

and selfishness and helping others often go hand in hand anyway. i did for example improve my health and increased my energy levels last year. this also gave me the extra energy to work on an free ebook – that will, if everything goes as planned, be up on the blog very soon – besides writing the usual articles. so that is a win-win.

1.自私

自私很少被認(rèn)為是好的品質(zhì)。一提到這個(gè)詞，你腦海中可能就浮現(xiàn)出類似于montgomery burns那樣貪婪、無情的人。然而，個(gè)人提升在某種程度確實(shí)是一件很自私的事。你總是試圖讓你和你的生活更好些。事實(shí)上，通過優(yōu)先關(guān)注自己的事不僅會(huì)讓你變得更強(qiáng)大，而且還可以更好的幫助別人。

如果你只關(guān)注別人的事，那你就有被“耗盡”的可能。因?yàn)槟銓?duì)事情沒有約束和限制，被人很可能會(huì)利用你。你成了“好好人”，因?yàn)槟憧偸窃趲腿嗣@忙那，卻很少考慮你自己。長(zhǎng)期來說，這樣是很不好的。

話又說回來，自私和幫助別人也并不矛盾。舉例來說，去年一年，我努力使自己更健康也更有精力了。這使我在除卻寫平常的一些文章外還有多余的精力去完成一本免費(fèi)的電子書(若不錯(cuò)意外，明年就可與大家見面了)。所以這是雙贏。

2. lazyness.

being lazy isn’t all that bad. being lazy about stuff that is irrelevant or not that important will help you quite a bit to free up time and minimize unnecessary stress. getting the most stuff done isn’t the best option. getting the most important things done will improve your life and world the most.

so, as i wrote a few weeks ago, set limits for checking inboxes, twitter etc. use your laziness and come up with ideas on how to make things as simple as you can in your daily life. find the smartest path instead of thinking there is some reward for doing things in the most roundabout and complicated way.

this also makes it easier to really relax when you relax and work in focused way when you are working. be smart and balance life and take advantage of laziness instead of making things into an unnecessarily big struggle.

2.懶惰

懶惰也并非都是壞事。對(duì)一些無關(guān)緊要的事懶惰會(huì)為你節(jié)省很多時(shí)間，減少不必要的壓力。做完最多的事并非是最好的選擇，做完最重要的事才是最佳選擇。它能最大限度地提升你的生活和你生活的世界。

所以，在幾個(gè)星期前我就建議，要對(duì)你每天查看郵箱或twitter的次數(shù)做一個(gè)限制。在日常生活中，要利用你的懶惰來想一些點(diǎn)子，好讓有些事情盡可能簡(jiǎn)單。找一種最聰明的方法解決問題，而不是想著如果繞一些彎子或用一些很復(fù)雜的方法會(huì)獲得獎(jiǎng)勵(lì)。

這樣做可以讓你更容易在該放松的時(shí)候徹底放松，在該工作的時(shí)候?qū)Ｗ⒐ぷ鳌Ｒ畹丶嚷斆饔制胶猓M量利用懶惰的優(yōu)勢(shì)，不要做不必要的巨大努力。

3. ruthlessness.

adding a bit of ruthlessness has, in just the right amount, been very helpful for me. it allows me to cut out the unnecessary instead of wimping around and trying to everything to fit in somehow. if you have problems with putting a stop to something or making decisions then a little bit more ruthlessness may be what you need.

because at some point you have to make harder decisions and cut out stuff you may not want to. otherwise you won’t be able to find the time and energy you need. this may mean to skip some social engagements or cutting down on the tv-shows you follow from 10 hours a week to 2 hours a week. not always fun, but you have to be the boss of your life. you have to make the decisions and say no both to yourself and to others if necessary.

3.冷酷無情

多一點(diǎn)恰當(dāng)?shù)睦淇釋?duì)我非常有幫助。它讓我剔除了一些不必要的事，而不是猶猶豫豫，并試著以某種方式適應(yīng)它。如果你對(duì)停止做某些事或做某個(gè)決定感到困難，那么一點(diǎn)點(diǎn)的冷酷就是你所需要的。

到了某些時(shí)候，你必須做出一些對(duì)你來說更困難的決定或是放棄一些你不想放棄的事，因?yàn)榉駝t你將無法騰出你所需要的時(shí)間和精力。這可能意味著，你將砍掉一些社會(huì)交際時(shí)間或是將每周花10小時(shí)看你所熱衷的tv秀減至每周2小時(shí)。這也許并不好過，但你是自己生活的主人。你必須做決定，如果需要，你要向自己或是別人說“不”。